Sunday, January 13, 2019

Of short films and thinking


After days of not writing, of being cut off voluntarily from most things, of swimming around in my own glass bowl of stale water, I feel the need to write again or rather to be part of something again.

So today I thought of writing about a few short films I saw in the weekend as part of Clone’s initiative to showcase women directors. I missed the controversial first film ‘Catharsis’ which I hope to catch sometime. I also missed a lot of the really well-made examples of short films which came later because I had a prior meeting I couldn’t ignore. Of the ones that I saw, I really liked ‘Indu’ – a simple, poignant story told in the most lyrical way possible.

Indu is a young girl who falls in love with her teacher. He is married. He lends her books and feeds her love for reading. She writes beautifully of her feelings in missives that she hides among the pages of the different books they exchange. He makes paper objects like planes and keeps it in the books as he lends them to her. It is clear that he enjoys the girl’s artless adoration. His ego revels in the kind of attention and devotion only the very young can bestow on you. One day, in class, when he announces that his wife is pregnant and distributes sweets in celebration, he cannot meet her eyes. She stares at him accusingly. She shows her anger in childish ways and he is annoyed. He makes it clear that he doesn’t like her behaviour and doesn’t understand why she cannot fathom the ways of the world – a married man is always out of bounds.

Indu walks away hurt. There is no drama. Her pain is clear to us – to anyone who has every fallen in love actually. And her deliberate unfolding of the teacher’s paper plane and refolding into a boat that floats away in the water is beautifully symbolic. The next scene shows a one-line discussion between her parents and another couple where all is ‘arranged’. A wedding with sombre overtones is clearly unfolding. It’s a simple affair. A small temple. A handful of guests. The bride’s bother walks grimly with a pot covered in red cloth and some jasmine flowers adorning it. The groom’s mother does the same. The lamps are lit. The ‘para’ is full as is the wont in any auspicious occasion. But there is no joyous music. There is no colour. The two pots sit side by side as the ceremony continues to its unremarkable end.
I loved this portrayal of a young heart’s ability to lose itself intensely. The protagonists are ordinary, everyday people – unremarkable in every way on the outside – just like us. The subtle underlying thread of suicide does not push one away from finding the story beautiful. The idea that a girl whose love is unfulfilled yet finds herself tied to some stranger in the afterlife so that her ‘soul’ can find peace fills you with despair – for she is not allowed to love even after death. It’s a must watch for anyone who wants to experience a different piece of film-making.

Of the other two I watched, ‘Mambazha Pulissery’ was most unremarkable. The camera was lazy – no effort had been put into framing the scenes. The content is nothing unusual and neither was the writing so I am not sure why the curator chose to add this short film in the set. Two sisters arguing about the younger’s choice to live in with her partner and viewed by their mother on Skype unbeknownst to them is hardly an interesting theme. Particularly when there is no denouement of any sort. They argue. They cook. They eat. Parallels are drawn between their disagreements and the need to work together despite differences by comparing the different flavours that go into the making of a pullissery. The mother attempts to show her daughters that she is conversant with live-in relationships by hinting that in older times their grandmother had several lovers as well. The film is neither here nor there. And unlike a well made mambazha pullissery (which by the way is really easy to make), there is nothing here that entices one’s taste buds. A film that could have been left out, in my opinion.

‘Njaval Pazhangal’ was halfway between these two for me. Named after the tongue-purpling jamun fruit, this film sets out to highlight the way skin colour is still a major issue in everyday lives. There is no clear story here. The protagonist revisits his childhood after biting into a juicy jamun on his way back home after years abroad. An idyllic childhood filled with picking jamuns, running around with his sister and being cherished by his parents and grandmother is shown. Throughout the narrative, casual statements that show the mindset against dark skin colour pop up almost as afterthoughts. The grandmother commenting that a bride in a wedding album was inferior because she was dark, the little girl not getting to play Bharathmatha in a play because she was dark, the colour of her favourite doll seeming to portent ill for her father because that too was black – all of them portray how insidious the prejudice against dark skin is. Most people are prejudiced without even knowing it. I liked the concept but I thought the execution needed work. The acting was contrived in many places. The sound was out of balance so the mixing and editing needed work. The ending was open. And while I normally like open endings there is such a thing as too open. The concept however is something that more directors need to address. I just wish the method of expression was more refined.

All in all the films did their work I believe – which was to make me think of things other than my daily woes and interests. And it got me writing again – how can I not be happy about that !

Thursday, January 3, 2019

The year past


The past year has been as most years have been in my life – a mix of ups and downs. Of course the tough periods outnumbered the easy ones but then I think I have been made for challenges. I learnt to respect the aspect of the fighter in me. I learnt that after the ranting and the railing and the seething frustration, I move on to an odd kind of peace. That teaches me an important fact – most things pass and if they don’t, then you just learn to ride them.

It isn’t challenges that get you down, it is the way you respond to them. I used to wonder why my life was especially difficult – the autism, the financial worries, the personal friction with extended family that plagued my relationship with them for years. And then I realised that comparisons were the worst way to deal with problems. You have yours, others have theirs. If you can find the strength to lift yourself and go on, it is a victory in itself. Whether someone else acknowledges it or not. Whether you reap the benefit of courage or not. Whether it makes you tougher or not.

Another bad way to deal with challenges is pondering the ‘what ifs’. What if I was allowed to take the job I was offered in college instead of being married off? What if I never married at all? What if autism hadn’t been in my life and I had only normal problems? What if I had believed in myself more? What if I had support? These questions are as futile as the answers themselves. The fact that I can handle most anything alone is because of what I had to go through. The fact that I have less fear and more confidence is because I beat my own path. The fact that I have accepted that I have let people’s expectations down and don’t let it bother me is because I believe that I am making a difference with my autism work. So there are always gains that you forget to note in your hurry to wallow in the loss of perceived blessings. Maybe in another life, things will be easier. Again maybe not.

One aspect of facing down hurdles is that you begin to respect the genuine in everything. Genuine words, genuine people and genuine feelings. And all that is fake becomes abhorrent. So this year I have decided to do away with all that is fake – fake relationships that have ceased to give me anything and took me for granted, fake words that are exchanged in order to fulfil a contract, fake engagements that cater to the ego. I believe with all my heart that we are put on this earth for a short length of time and if all we can do is put up a show, then what is the point of life?

So Happy New Year folks – celebrate the genuine in you and the world this year and always :)