The Dance of the Gods

After many years of carrying around a fond wish in my heart, I finally got to see a kathakali performance this evening.  I had almost not been able to make it since I thought I’d have no company. My husband is currently away and another friend who was of a like mind was unfortunately in Kerala and therefore I decided against going alone. It was S who said “Post it in Facebook – one of your friends might actually want to go!” So I duly posted it not expecting a single soul to be interested. But just as I posted it, my eternal pal T said she would love to join me and I was thrilled. So we made plans for the Sunday evening performance and en route I gave her sketchy ideas on Kathakali. S is of course an expert but I had never watched a single Kathakali performance and so I approached the programme with a mixture of anticipation and apprehension as to whether it would make sense to a novice.

T and I met up with one more friend of mine and we all sat together. Thankfully he could grasp most of the meanings of the ‘padams’ or song verses and we got a decent enough interpretation. The opening scene of the Daksha Yaga performance featured none other than Kalamandalam Gopi Asan, one of the foremost exponents of the art. His graceful movements and facial expressions belied his age and the elegant little piece that he performed was a perfect beginning. He did not take the stage as Daksha for the rest of the performance however. The entire enactment was mesmerising. Daksha (now played by another artiste), Sati, Shiva, Indra, Veerabhadra and Kali made up the cast along with two pint-sized bhoothaganas who looked more like kutty chathans (they were terribly cute!). 

The final scenes where Veerabhadra and BhadraKali ran to and fro , yelling and brandishing sword and axe and screaming bloody murder right in the midst of the audience was spellbinding. The sheer grace of the dancers who with their limited movements and unlimited expressions managed to convey the story in all its beauty on a cramped stage is simply inexpressible. Three powerful dancers on a tiny stage displaying Daksha’s determination, Veerabhadra’s ferocity and Kali’s bloodlust made for truly a spectacular watch. I sat up in my chair during those scenes feeling the shiver of goosebumps  as the dancers ran this way and that all in time to the rhythm of the chenda and the madalam. The music and the scenes transport you to a different world – a world of passion, fury, glory, compassion, gods, villains and every wonderful thing to a higher degree than imaginable. All three of us enjoyed the performance thoroughly. I definitely wish to go again and learn more about this superb art form. Not knowing anything except the story although enabling me to comprehend, still left me feeling that I wished to know more of the background of the entire art form and to learn more of the beautiful kathakali sangeetham or to be able to appreciate nuances such as the main character always being on the left of the stage or the chenda never being played while a female character of importance took centre stage. 

A perfect Sunday night has drawn to a close and unlike my usual Sunday evenings where I feel a nameless sadness take hold of me, today the demons of low spirits seemed banished to a far off place.

For our children...

A country that treats its children worse than its sewage has its priorities topsy-turvy in my not-so-humble opinion. What is the purpose of producing so many children every year if a large percentage of those very children have no access to food, healthcare or education? Why do we have children if we cannot keep them safe from abuse? Why do we allow maids, drivers and assorted paid ‘caregivers’ complete responsibility over infants and small children who cannot possibly be in a position to tell on them? Why do we allow demented losers who could never in a million years get a job in any other capacity to teach our children?

We do all this and more because as a nation we consider our children dispensable. The number of children as young as eight committing suicide by hanging is growing. How does such a young child even know about how to go about hanging himself or herself? Has Google’s penetration become so widespread that even little children can go online and find a self-help video on hanging? Why is the first resort after being chastised for low marks to go and off oneself? There is a tremendous lack of character as far as one can see. If you cannot take a failed test in your stride, how do you expect to deal with death, disease, random cruelty, natural catastrophe or any other tragedy worth its name?

The government would rather waste untold amounts of money thanks to the basest kind of corruption than earmark it in an enforceable manner on education. There are piles of funds lying in odd departments for the education of special needs children but who has access to it? Where is the framework to enforce implementation of RTE which would prevent people like us going abegging to even low-grade schools in a bid to seek inclusion for our children? The complacency of the idiots in charge appals me. One day when autism is at their door and they cannot ignore it for if not their children, their grandchildren will certainly be afflicted, where will these characters go? If there is no infrastructure to teach these children now, what will happen in twenty years’ time when 1 in 150 grows to 1 in 80? All those superior folk out there who think its great to abuse and discriminate against children whose only fault is a neuro-developmental disorder of no certifiable cause need to be decimated as intolerance is one of the evils that can pollute entire generations.

Treat every child equally. Pay attention to the child’s needs. Stop teaching them to be selfish for selfishness needs to be taught if it is as rampant as I see it today. Stop making them intolerant. Stop getting them used to instant gratification. Stop praising them ridiculously for achievements they have not attained yet. Stop telling them that they are entitled. Teach them faith. Teach them will power. Teach them kindness. Teach them patience. Teach them generosity. Treat them like they matter. And for God’s sake, listen to them….

Missing Acha...

Today I wish so badly that my father was alive. Nothing special happened to remind me of him. It is not his birthday or the anniversary of his passing away. It is an ordinary day. But I miss my father so much today that there is a strong ache inside. I wondered why today of all days I am drowned in memories of a father who loved his kids so much he never ever put himself first. Every little thing he earned, he set aside for his children. His difficult and often penurious childhood where even food was hard to come by did not make him a stingy soul. In fact his being poor when young made him one of the most generous people you would ever meet. 

My father loved people. He loved to feed them. He loved to make them feel better. He would never let guests walk away till their hearts and bellies were full. I have known him to give away so much just because he could not countenance another’s pain. Hardship often turns us brittle; very few of us learn to be more understanding and forgiving or even more importantly, loving when we are hurt. My father had been hurt many times by those closest to him, by their ways of taking away whatever he earned, by his being manipulated in the name of love and yet he never harboured ill-will towards anyone. How was it possible to be treated unfairly, to be run roughshod and to be used relentlessly and yet look at people with hope, love and belief? That was my dad. He believed.

It was his belief that made me think that dreams were possible. He always told me that if I wanted anything with all my heart, I would get it. He infected everyone around him with happiness. My friends still remember how loveable he was. He relished being a parent. He took joy in his children even though he was quite strict with us about most things. I used to think as a child that he could even do magic. I never thought that anything was beyond him when I was little. I see my daughter look at her dad like that with eyes full of stars and with complete faith that he will take care of her and keep her from harm. Every daughter looks up to her father as this wonderful hero who will always protect her and whom no other man can match up to. This is the beautiful bond that fathers have with their little girls.

I wish my father was here today so he could see his grandchildren grow up. I wish he could sit and chat with his only granddaughter. I wish he was around to say he was proud of me. Growing up, I never let him down. Not once, even when I lived in hostels for eight years, did I do anything that he would disapprove of. I never lied to him even in a single instance. I never had to. I always respected him. I know that his good deeds are the best legacy he could have left his children. He was never a man who could make money. But he could leave us kids with the memories of not just our family but of countless others who have stories to tell us of how he helped in some way or the other. It is my father’s grace that supports me now. With him looking out for me I feel safe. My dad will always protect me. And I miss him more than I can say…